1. I take full responsibility for the success of my marriage, regardless of my spouse's actions. *

2. I embrace temporary discomfort for the long-term success of my marriage. *

3. I create a safe space for my spouse to share important things with me, like their feelings and their fears. *

4. I avoid difficult conversations with my spouse when they make me uncomfortable. *

5. I have a hard time being vulnerable and I struggle to share what I'm feeling or what I'm going through with my spouse. *

6. I believe that a successful marriage should be 50-50 between both partners. *

8. I am open to constructive feedback from my spouse about how we can improve our marriage. *

9. I take full responsibility and I apologize when my words or actions hurt my spouse (even if it was unintentional). *

10. I validate my spouse's feelings, even if I disagree with their perspective. *

13. I am more commited to finding solutions to problems in my marriage than I am to assigning blame or to winning. *

14. I have a strong sense of self-worth that is independent of my relationship. *

20. I follow through on the promises I make to myself, even if that means letting someone else down. *

23. I am more likely to follow through on a promise to someone else than I am to myself. *

24. I am comfortable saying "No" to friends, family, coworkers, and kids to protect time and space for my marriage. *

29. I am comfortable asking my spouse for what I want and what I need in our relationship. *

33. I respectfully speak my mind and challenge situations or decisions when necessary. *

35. I check in daily with my spouse to hear about their day and find out how they're doing. *

37. I disengage from conflict when I've had enough, regardless of whether my spouse wants to continue to resolve it. *

38. I expect my spouse to know what I want and need without having to tell them explicitly because they know me and love me enough to just know. *

39. I am committed to fully resolving conflicts in my marriage when they arise. *

40. I am aware of my spouse's love language and show them love in the way they can best receive it. *

45. I prioritize rebuilding our connection after a conflict or disconnection. *

46. I am reliable and follow through on the commitments I make to my spouse. *

47. I keep my fears, worries that keep me up at night, and any other generally negative thoughts to myself so that I don't worry my spouse. *

49. When we're talking, I actively listen to my spouse, without interrupting or planning my response, so that I can better understand them. *

51. I approach difficult conversations with curiosity and a desire to understand my spouse's point of view, instead of trying to get them to take my side. *

52. I am comfortable with productive conflict and view it as an opportunity for us to grow closer together. *

53. I speak negatively about my spouse to others (my friends, family, colleagues, etc.). *

54. I respect my spouse's opinions and perspectives, even when they differ from mine.

57. I ask questions rather than assuming the worst about my spouse's actions. *

60. In a disagreement I prioritize the resolution over winning or being right. *

64. I prioritize our marriage over external influences or pressures (including friends, families, in-laws, careers, colleagues, etc.). *

65. I look for ways to have fun with my spouse during daily activities and chores. *

70. I approach potential frustrations or annoyances as opportunities for fun and adventure with my spouse. *

71. During quality time with my spouse, I'm distracted (scrolling my phone, answering texts, mentally replying to emails or updating my to-do list in my head). *

73. I focus on the joy and excitement in my relationship, rather than dwelling on negatives. *

75. I am flexible and spontaneous in my approach to quality time with my spouse. *

79. My spouse and I regularly discuss our shared vision for the future together. *

82. I make decisions with our long-term vision in mind, rather than decisions for my short-term gratification. *

84. I am willing to make short-term sacrifices for the long-term success of my marriage. *

85. I keep daily frustrations in perspective by focusing on my shared vision for the future with my spouse. *

86. We regularly celebrate milestones and progress towards our shared goals together. *

90. We discuss our desired levels of work-life balance and have a plan in place that meets both of our needs. *

98. I have a tendency to yell or raise my voice when arguing with my spouse. *

99. It's more important to me to be right than to do what's in the best interest of my marriage. *

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